Being a better man
The Father's for Families group meets weekly for ten weeks, giving dads the opportunity to talk frankly with each other in a supportive environment. Here are the stories of three recent graduates ...
"Doing this course made me stop and look at myself," says single dad of four, Barrie. "I thought about the things I could do better that would benefit me and the kids in the long term. I've learned tools to help build trust and to stay calm under pressure."
Barrie admits that at home tempers can fray easily, impacting on his self-esteem.
"Doing Father's for Families has helped my confidence go up. It has made me much stronger," says Barrie. "It's a big commitment, but it is well worth it. I'm going on to do the next course, the Resolution Series."
"I volunteered for the course after doing Incredible Years," says Quentin, who admits he has anger management issues. "This course has brought me happiness, and the skills to enjoy myself more with my boys."
Quentin says his major focus now is trying to be a better dad.
"I'd thought before that maybe I could do better, but once you start improving it builds," he says. "I'd say to all dads, just give it a go. I tell all my mates what I've learned, and it has helped them too."
"I was referred to Father's for Families by my probation officer, and at first I didn't really want to do it," admits Pita. "But I really got into it. I've learned how to be more 'here' for my kids. It's made me want to be a good role model for them."
Pita admits he had some trouble expressing himself, and being part of a group of blokes all in a similar boat was really helpful.
"It's really opened me up," he says. "We've (the other fathers in the group) all got stuff in common."